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Do we Have to go to Court?

How it is that a year after I met with this client that we are standing in a courtroom about to litigate a future custody arrangement, child support amount, property division or alimony claims? The answer is found in how we resolve conflicts in family law cases. Every day I have…

Summer Fun

School is out! For many families this is a time where the routine of the school year gives way to the fun, but sometimes stressful, summer time. Often families have different custodial arrangements in the summer which can mean more time for fun, but also presents issues with work schedules…

Family’s Best Interests

As a Family Attorney, I spend a lot of time discussing other people’s schedules, their children, their spouses….all that makes up their world. Most of the time, parties are successful in negotiating who gets the children when. Parents divide up two-week increments and then divide up summers and holidays. Attorneys…

Co-parenting – The Content of Conversation

Co-parenting is about putting your children first and effectively communicating with the other parent. As one judge often puts it “fake it ‘til you make it.” To me, that means act like you like the other parent even when you really may not like them at all. A few tips…

Co-parenting – Written Communication

Co-parenting is a phrase that has recently become popular among the family law community. To me what it really means is putting the children ahead of the need to continue disagreements with the other parent. Through my work I have observed excellent examples of co-parenting and excellent examples of putting…

Divorce and Children without Court

Parents want to protect their children.  That’s what they do.  When parents decide to transition to a two household family the question is always “How will we make sure the kids are ok?” There are different processes to come up with a plan for where the children live and who…

What if mediation fails? Do I have to have a trial?

In Mecklenburg County, in most cases mediation is required.  If mediation fails, does that mean that there has to be a hearing? No!  The parties (or their attorneys) can negotiate a Consent Order.  A Consent Order is an agreement negotiated outside of court that is signed by the parties, their…

What is a separation agreement?

Separation agreements are used either before or after one of you decides to move somewhere else.  These agreements are contracts used to decide time with children, debt, property distribution, retirement accounts, spousal support, and similar issues. These agreements are contracts between the parties, they are not court orders unless specific…

What is Child Custody mediation? (And do I have to go?)

North Carolina requires that all Child Custody cases, with a few exceptions, go to mediation.  If you don’t know where to go in your county to sign up for mediation, contact your county’s Civil Clerk’s office. In Mecklenburg County, all Child Custody litigants (those two people seeking custody) are required…

Unbundled Services Explained…

This statistic was inspired by a book called Unbundling Your Divorce by M. Sue Talia which highlights the fact that people every day try to handle their own legal matters because legal fees can be completely unaffordable.  Unbundling legal services are becoming increasingly popular in certain circles.  Known as limited-scope…

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